How to Gain Confidence
Confidence can help in every aspect of your life. It can be gained or strengthened using some simple tips and techniques, which are explained in my new book, “Confidence the 7 Keys to Your Happiness.” Confidence is developed through experience. Once you master your skills and the ability to gain confidence through spaced repetition then your routine actions repeated day after day, become a leviathan of positivity.
Confidence is a relatively simple psychological tool that can power you forward to great things. So why is it so hard for most people to achieve self-confidence? In my opinion, a large percentage of the blame can be attributed to the fact that many people spend their early years actively attacking confidence and talking themselves and others down. They enjoy "pity parties." Some people stop this negative behaviour in their teens, others sadly continue throughout their lives. Why? Probably because of the unpleasant human instinct and belief that you can gain confidence for yourself by destroying the confidence of others. Not so.
Luckily, this particular human flaw can be turned around to work for you. Study the drawing above. It is one of a unique set of illustrations, "The Happy Cat Collection" created by Mark Edmonds for my new book on confidence. "Happy" the cat sees himself as a lion. Of course, when other cats look at Happy, they don't see a lion, they see a cat. However, Happy’s body language and demeanor declare to all the other cats that he holds himself in very high regard. The other cats think that Happy the lion cat is very self-assured and probably for a good reason. They do not doubt his confidence. After all, throughout his cat childhood; Happy the lion cat was thoroughly "tested" by all the other kittens - yet he maintains his self-confidence. Other cats do not question Happy's self-belief; they simply accept it. You can adopt a "Happy" positive attitude.
Confidence works as a self-fueling cycle; a self-perpetuating prophecy; either for the positive or for the negative. That is why once your confidence is damaged, it can be difficult to re-programme it back onto the right track. However, help is at hand.
Confidence we all have it, we all lose it... we all want it. Read more about how to be more confident in my new book available direct from me, (the cheapest and quickest method) or on-and off-line. Just drop me a line and we'll get your copy in the post... or download it from Lulu... Thank you.
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