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The difference between hot water and boiling water is just one degree of heat. And whilst that may not seem a lot, it is the difference between a relaxing cup of tea and having the oomph to power up a steam train! Just one extra degree of heat - that's all. That one degree extra effort, can make all the difference not only for locomotives but in powering forward with your personal and professional life.
The Law of Magnetism is powerful too; so great in fact that whatever character you possess you are likely to find in the people who are attracted to you. Leaders attract people whose values are similar to their own. Think of the people who were attracted to John F. Kennedy in the early 1960s. He was a young idealist who wanted to change the world and he attracted people with a similar profile. When he formed the Peace Corps and extolled people with, "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country," thousands of young idealistic people stepped forward to answer the challenge. JFK exuded a magical magnetism; as does Obama. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter whether the shared values are positive or negative, the result is the same. (Hitler being an obvious example of the latter).
As you know, people work better when they feel valued. Everyone needs to feel important and respected. In the book Leadership and Self-deception it is put this way; whatever is is that you do, you see others either as people or as objects. When you see people as people you are thinking out of the box and when you are in the box when you see them in a distorted way i.e. as objects.
One thing you could do to increase your magnetism quotient is use kind words of encouragement; and to do so publicly and with gusto. Praise your employees with enthusiasm especially in the current climate. As Gerry Westwood explains in his newsletter this month, enthusiasm rocks! Or as Dale Carnegie said, "Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise... " When you take the time to learn someone's name you see them as a person not an resource. Be genuine! People will spot falsehoods and no-one likes to feel manipulated by a new technique. Be honest! Go out, look for the good in people- just for fun and because you can! Why? You will feel really good about yourself and that it is the one degree more needed to turn you into a people magnet.
You have been blessed with the gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say "thank you?" Why not do so now? And charge forward with a full head of steam and have a great month attracting all sorts of exciting things into your life.
Thanks to Khumi Burton, I had the pleasure of meeting Martin Bell this month at a charity luncheon for Combat Stress. He was friendly and charming. Martin made me feel as though he had come to meet and speak to me. My pleasure and 'thank you' is to broadcast his new book. It is out on October 1st and if you live within striking distance of Waterstones Manchester he is signing books at 7pm. See you there?
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