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Make New Friends, but Keep the Old

Eilidh Milnes - Thursday, August 27, 2009

Holidays are over but your body is still sleeping too long. Getting to school late the first few weeks of frazzles the best of us. There could be a million reasons a late arrival to school occurs, just make sure it’s not because you weren’t awake in time! Leave enough time to allow for a train, a traffic jam, or cattle crossing. My mother said I should never be late because it implied that I was more important than others. With these words engrained in my mind, I do not do late!

Students, parents and even school staff have tons of great ideas at the beginning of the school year. As educators are giddy with excitement for a new school year and all the possibilities it brings.  Remain realistic. Only promise what you know you are able to deliver. Respond with “I’d like to do…” or “That really interests me…” instead of “I’m definitely going to….” Your students and colleagues will remember and remind you regularly if you break a promise.

New teachers bring new life to school staffs, and that’s never more apparent that at the beginning of the school year. A school staff should not be like a survivor programme.  Act as a part of team instead of a solo teacher. Remember the song: “Make new friends, but keep the old.” Try to make neebies feel welcome. Help show them the ropes. Don’t put anyone’s torch out. Help ignite the flame!

If you’ve got a to-do list a mile long and have no idea how to accomplish most of the items on it you must remember to ask for help and advice. If you’ve questions about the nuts and bolts of how the school runs (ordering supplies, schedules, etc) ask your administrative staff. In my experience, they are some of the nicest and tapped-in people in the building. Don’t wait for answers to questions over email or memos - go face to face so your to-do list is eliminated.

Happy Teacher - Term Start Tips

Eilidh Milnes - Saturday, August 22, 2009

On the Forum there is a topic, "Happy Teachers..." The Confidence Coach Blog seemed a good place to add further ideas for start of term thoughts...

Throughout the first two weeks of school, new students will be added to your class and you’ll have the opportunity to meet new parents. You only get one chance to make a first impression- so make the most of it. If you expect your students to adhere to the dress code, you have to stick to it, too. Looking your professional best will help you feel great and that confidence will trickle over into your teaching.

And as your new students settle in, you may think that getting everyone to share a talent/ability is a good icebreaker for the start of the school year. I do urge you to tread lightly. Talking about a talent is one thing, but putting it on display is quite another. 

My advice: wait until your class has bonded to trying something like this. Once there is trust in place, the atmosphere of sharing a personal talent is safer and will yield better results.

BBC Radio Manchester - Student Debt et al

Eilidh Milnes - Wednesday, August 19, 2009
BBC Radio Manchester's Coffee Club Today was hosted by the lovely Becky Want. I had the pleasure of joining Valerie Campbell - social worker and aspiring actress and Carl Nagaitis PR & Publicity media expert and author.

BBC Radio Manchester's hour long programme covers real life stories and news reviews of topical items. Today we covered several headlines from student debt to celebrity endorsement, car parking fees at NHS hospitals to ninety-nine pence pregnancy testing kits!
So pretty diverse topics as you can see.... many taken from the Daily Mail. This link takes you to the headline news that the average students can now look forward to serious debt as they complete their courses. "Student debt stands at a record £22BN with the cost of studying at university for three years soaring above £33,000. Students are taking out bigger loans than ever to cover top-up tuition fees of £3,070 a year and rising living expenses. 

They borrowed almost £4BN during the last financial year - up 32 per cent on the year before..."


My advice to the title topic was to consider career coaching before committing to tertiary education:

  1. Do you need to go to university/college to gain your qualifications this year? More mature students often study better...
  2. Can you attend a local establishment to reduce your living costs? Create a lifestyle spreadsheet for income/outgoings...
  3. Is sponsorship/scholarship an option? Check online and off-line...
The government "figures come just days after the Association of Graduate Recruiters warned that this summer's university-leavers face a longer job hunt as companies cut back on recruitment due to the credit crunch." says Laura Clark of the Daily Mail

Perhaps work and life experience would be better options for future school leavers for the next couple of years at least...
Listen again on the web... Radio BCC Manchester 95.1 FM
For more information BBC news pages




Talk Confidence - Just a Bucket of Sand

Eilidh Milnes - Friday, August 14, 2009

According to my site analytics, the last newsletter was very popular. A number of you suggested books. Thank you. I have already added two to my recommended reading list - particular thanks to Gerrit Bantjes, who called me for coaching and Bernard O'Brien who mailed with:  "A great and easy book to read is WINK by Roger Hamilton. I give this book away to most of my new clients and the feedback is always positive. If you ever travel by train, say from Manchester to London, and want a quick read that you can complete on the journey this has to be it. Beware though you will find yourself going back to it over and over..."

What a great idea! Do you ever give books to clients? Like Bernard, I often give clients reads I have enjoyed. Until now, my next step was to offer them my book list. Today I am going one step further. To make life easier for readers, I have created Eilidh's Amazon Affiliate web page. With one click you can select the books you need and take advantage of the suberb service and prices guaranteed by Amazon plus see the books suggested by Gerrit and Bernard. There is also a page dedicated to some gadgets and gizmos as recommended by Jay. Keep checking back as these site are work in progress :)  

At the turn of the millennium, I was not so confident with matters IT and perhaps you feel this way even today. I certainly never saw me having the skill or confidence to create my own web pages or fix HTML code! At that time, Kyle our highly skilled and computer literate son lived at home. He encouraged me with this analogy: "Remember when I was a small boy and we went to the beach mum? I could destroy a pristine clear beach with my footprints in a matter of seconds. Well, with older operating systems you could do some serious damage to our computer data in a similar fashion, but nowadays with the latest software programmes the most you could do is knock over a bucket of sand. So go and play on the big beautiful beach of IT. Be confident that you really can't do anything that I can't fix!" 

If you have a confidence issue, take heart from Kyle's encouraging words. Believe me I was so frightened I could hardly switch on (or off) the computer, as I was convinced that I was going to break it or irretrievably damage files.... yet look at me now! I will never be a programming expert - do I want to be -  but I can do a lot more than I ever dreamed possible nine years ago! And of course, when I need help I take advice from knowledgeable IT gurus such as KyleChris Davidson my mastermind colleague and Kate Spratley, who designed my website. Send to a Friend Have I made mistakes? Too many to mention! Does this bother me? Not in the slightest. Recently, Kate taught me a site technique called 'Rollback' - it basically deletes my errors! How clever is that?

Look forward to hearing from you with your news and favourite book titles to share with other Talk Confidence subscribers.

Remember if I can help you in any way - just holler! 

And if you make an error just 'Rollback' laugh at yourself and don't take life so seriously all you can do is knock over a bucket of sand.

Talk Confidence - Holiday Reading - Leaders are Readers

Eilidh Milnes - Saturday, August 01, 2009


Reading Time: 355 words

my life has changed....
14/07/2009 08:11

have you read this book?
14/07/2009 08:11

Leadership-Self-deception Getting Out of the Box? (this in now available from my Amazon Affiliate site.


This Skype-chat popped up at breakfast time two weeks ago. It came from our son, Kyle 27, who works in IT in Dublin.
Would his words prompt you to buy a copy? Of course, me too - I immediately ordered "Leadership & Self Deception, Getting out of the Box..."by the Arbinger Institute to find out what had made such an impressionon Kyle. What was this book? What had caused him to stay up readinghalf the night? What was so exciting that he felt compelled to sharethe ideas with me over breakfast?

Kyle is of the opinion that the 'Box" concepts have changed his life andextols me to write a speaking programme based on the work "Outside the box..."

Have you ever read a book that caused you to have such a paradigm shift? If so, please tell and I'll share with Talk Confidence readers.

I also value the work of another author, Jim Collins, called "Good to Great". So much so, that I have built leadership programmes around his material. You can view clips on video footage.

And rest assured when the new "Box" programme is ready you'll be amongst the first to know.

In the meantime, you might want to take advantage of some free funding that is available now in England.  I can now deliver FREE Leadership & Management Training.  Click the link relevant to you. There are courses for business/public sector and for education. And of course we can also tailor training to your specific needs. And free really does mean FREE.

So now you know what I'll be working on for the next few weeks - what about you?

My favourite reads are on Eilidh's Booklist 09 which you can download here. 
Asyou may be aware, the two biggest impact factors on you and yourbusiness in the next 5 years will be the people you associate with andthe books you read - Leaders are readers...

Have fun! 
And look forward to hearing from you.