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Redundancy - Tips for Dealing with Change - Final Four Tips

Eilidh Milnes - Saturday, July 25, 2009

Continue to do your work

I’ve coached many clients through reorganisations, downsizing and change management. The process is no fun. Regardless of how you feel, resist the temptation to just sit and bemoan your lot. Be proactive as opposed to reactive. It’s easy to develop a knee jerk attitude, because you don’t know if your work is going to continue. And whether or not your job is going to mean anything to anyone tomorrow or even exist next week. 

Still, you are being paid to work, so try to do so. Furthermore, willingness to see the best outcomes could impress any future bosses.

Think +ve

Act like Pollyanna - keep a positive attitude and be a good finder. It can help you deal with the uncertainties of change. For example, instead of worrying about changes you will have to make, focus instead on how you can leverage your existing skills and experience; looking for opportunities in the new organisation. Become involved, it will hasten your adjustment.

Network maintenance

Your network of contacts, both inside and outside your company, can serve a valuable function. Your contacts can share with you their own experiences of change and tell you of job opportunities. Most importantly, they can be a sounding board for your ideas and share with you their emotions about change.

Build your network by keeping in touch with school and college/university friends, former colleagues, bosses, and people who have worked for you. Meet colleagues at conferences, conventions and events both off and on-line. Use LinkedIn and other powerful social networking sites.

See the big picture

Change can be frightening, and disruptive. However, with the right attitude and actions, you can find opportunities in that change. 

I know many people who ultimately think that redundancy was a positive career move.

Redundancy - Tips for Dealing with Change - Part 2

Eilidh Milnes - Monday, July 20, 2009

Talk, Look & Listen

Communications are always important, but especially so when you face change. A lack of communication from others can have a negative impact, while effective communication can have a positive one. From a purely pragmatic standpoint, you need details about any changes ahead, so that you can determine how it affects you. Don’t just sit back and wait for things to happen. Talk to your boss, your boss’s boss, and your colleagues to get their perspective and ‘spin’. When dealing with work associates however, be aware that news can be distorted and can be mixed with rumours and bias and downright lies!

Part of the fear of change involves dealing with the unknown. If possible, try to minimise this factor by talking to others who have undergone such a change. 

  • What difficulties did they experience?
  • How did they deal with them? 
  • How can you adapt their experiences to your own situation? 

Your communications should involve more than just people in your own department or company. They should involve people in other companies as well. They might have experienced the same change, so their advice has value. They might also serve as valuable contacts should you decide to change jobs.

SWOT it!

Companies, in planning for the future, often conduct a SWOT analysis for strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats (SWOT). This type of analysis can be just as helpful to you. 

  • What skills and strengths do you have? 
  • Where do you need to improve? 

By understanding your own strengths and weaknesses, and knowing as much as you can about the new situation, you have a better chance of finding a place to fit in.

Bend and flex

Change requires flexibility. The better able you are to adapt to change, the greater your chances of being successful. After you complete your self-assessment, take a look at the requirements of the new situation. Maybe your current job doesn’t fit exactly into it. However, what skills, from your old role, can you apply to the new situation? In other words, instead of focusing on differences, focus on similarities. Play to your strengths.

Redundancy - Tips for Dealing with Change

Eilidh Milnes - Friday, July 17, 2009

Tips for Dealing with Change

Recognise that change does happen

Embrace it! The more we understand that change will happen, the less upset and surprised we will be when we encounter that change. Denying that change will happen only makes things more difficult.

Office gossip

Recognising that change happens is highly desirable. It’s even better, though, to recognise when change might be occurring in your own specific situation. Keep alert to subtle clues e.g. Are you being excluded from important meetings? Does your boss seem more distant? Are their rumours in the air? What are the stories around the water cooler/ photocopier/fax machine?

Stages

Reactions to organisational change resemble those to the death of a loved one, according to the work of psychologist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. The early stages include shock and denial (refusing to believe what has happened and instead believing everything will be all right), guilt (at not having done or said more or for not being the decedent), and anger (at the decedent or at God). Later, one passes through the stages of acceptance (acknowledging what has happened) and moving on.

With respect to organisational change, an additional “negotiations” stage can occur, in which the affected person offers to work harder as a way of preventing or forestalling the change.

All the stages don’t necessarily occur. The progression might not be a smooth linear one, and different amounts of time may be involved with the different stages. Regardless, the quicker you get to the acceptance and moving on stages, the better it will be for you.

Take Support from other People

Eilidh Milnes - Monday, July 13, 2009
Where would Luke Skywalker be without Obi-Wan Kenobi? Where would Paul Daniels be without Debbie Mc Gee? Bad places most likely.
If you know someone who is really good at doing what you are about to do, ask them for advice and guidance. Or if you feel uncomfortable with this direct approach because you do not know them well enough, watch them closely.
  • How do they act?
  • How do they approach the situation?
  • How do they react to high-pressure?
You can also learn from high profile and famous people so long as the role model is relevant to you. Tiger Wood's golf swing is not going to help your presentation pitch persae, but watching Barack Obama speak on YouTube might.
It's also helpful to learn from the mistakes of others. The Apprentice may or may not appeal to you as ideal TV viewing, however if you use your observation skills you can learn a lot from this programme - something that sadly many of Sir Alan's weaker candidates are totally oblivious to.
So go ahead and take support from someone you know, like and trust. You'll probably find that he/she is highly flattered by your request and more than happy to help you.

Look in the Mirror

Eilidh Milnes - Sunday, July 05, 2009
Michael Jackson is on nearly every radio station play-list at the moment. I've just been listening "Man in the Mirror". The lyrics are powerful. 
"I'm Gonna Make A Change, For Once In My Life It's Gonna Feel Real Good, Gonna Make A Difference Gonna Make It Right.... I'm Starting With The Man In The Mirror I'm Asking Him To Change His Ways..."
Apart from saying something encouraging to yourself such as "Good Morning Gorgeous!" every day; I suggest in my Cool Beans Desktop "If things to wrong, look in the mirror and say, "OK let's fix this problem!"
What do you think? You do hold the cards for your life in your hands. How do you plan to play them today?
 

Talk Confidence = Are YOU Feeling Guilty?

Eilidh Milnes - Thursday, July 02, 2009
Reading time: 602 words = 2 minutes or so....

If you are reading this in UK you will no doubt have been experiencing a lovely spell of weather - a veritable heat wave in fact! Wherever in the world you are, I hope you take time to relax and enjoy some chill time. Or would this make you feel guilty? More of guilt anon...

Traditionally, June is a busy month in the life of a professional speaker and for my part, it's been a hectic month of work ranging from Essential Competitive Life Skills,  A Pink Champagne Charity Luncheon with Business Consort, stress-proofing the minds of some 200 CIMA accountants to Interview Skills with university candidates.

One of our PSA prospective members and my new Twitter friend Ali Turnbull from Fit to Print said, "Eilidh, you put the canin candidate." What a kind comment! Thank you Ali! Certainly one of my key objectives when I coach people to speak is to be can=did and to empower them to think positively and face their fears with a "can" attitude.

As a result of speaking all over the country this month, I have spent many hours on trains and tubes. My mother had alternative thinking when it came to parental guidance, "A stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet."  So not surprisingly I speak to people I do not know all the time and have met many fascinating travelling companions as a result. I see life as one big speaking opportunity!

One such stranger, Anne-Marie works within the NHS. As we chatted on the Heathrow Express last weekend, she told me that having been brought up as a Roman Catholic in Ireland, she carries feelings of extreme guilt associated with just about every aspect of her life. This is no criticism of Catholicism or religion, however for whatever reason unwarranted guilt does seem to pervade and spoil the lives of many people.

Do you experience guilt? At some point we all do don't we? And possibly rightly so. Have you felt this way recently? Maybe you should ask yourself why? Everyone likes to be listened to. Do you listen to yourself - your positive self? Do a check-up from the neck up! In some cases your bad feelings may have been justified but in many others they will not be. 

My advice for when you feel GUILTY for no apparent good reason? Do some brainwashing -  some mental gymnastics  - some alternative thinking:

= Give
= U (yourself)
= Indulgent
L = Leisure (and pleasure)
T = Time
= Yes (Y = Yahoo! Y = Yipee!)

Simply see GUILT differently. Why not? I expand on this concept in Chapter 6 page 91 of my book"Love you Life... Survive the System..."  entitled "Ideas to Make your day Fun!" and on my Blog this week. Please join in the debate. Or post on the Confidence Club. There are diverse topics to choose from. 

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Now, let's all head back into the sun (antipodean readers I know this could be a challenge!) share some guilt-free quality time with friends and family... and maybe even a stranger! 
Have fun!
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