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Thanks to Kate Fox of Fox Graphics there is a published a 250 word taster of my new book, "Confidence - the Key to Your Happiness" in Kate's 'My Business Magazine'.

The new book is full of stories and strategies to ride the roller-coaster of life and is due out early summer and goes to the editor on April 6th. Enjoy the a snippet edited for the magazine..

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Kyle was discussing the merits and demerits of task switching. And as someone who considers herself an adapt multitasker I listened intently. In summary, Kyle protects his team from interruptions and distractions by being the guy to field requests and queries that come to his department. This way his IT team can stay focused on their projects. At the same time, they keep a scratch pad to note down ideas and interests. Then as time becomes available, they can contribute and take on fresh work that interests them.

We agreed that in cases such as a production line, tasks can be tedious and repetitive. In these situations task switching can have real benefit. Who wants to be less than effective due to boredom?

I have applied Kyle's methodology to writing my latest book and I must say it is proving very productive. 'Confidence - The Key to Your Happiness', goes to the editor on April 6th as a result! Are you effective or time wasting? Do you find yourself switching and skipping?

When I asked this question on Twitter, Ali Turnbull had this to say:
 
Say you have three people who all need one day’s work from you this week. You could say 'I will do:

Tom’s project on Monday;
Dick’s on Tuesday;
Harry’s on Wednesday.'

Sod’s law is that Harry will ring on Monday for a progress report, or that you will find a glitch in his project that you can’t ask him about till Wednesday. You will have a smoother week if you rotate the projects.

1. Divide Monday morning into three.
2. Allocate a slot to each project.
3. Start each project, making a note of the questions you think you may need to raise with each client/colleague.  There’s sure to be some talking point.

On Monday afternoon, e-mail or phone your client with your questions. They will all be impressed that you have made a start! You may also find out who is chafing at the bit and who is a bit more laid back about their deadline.
At the end of Monday write down targets and time slots for Tuesday.
Continue on Tuesday and Wednesday rotating the three projects so that you finish sizeable chunks of each every time, but don’t get bored.

If you are easily distracted, you could use Interruptron as recommended by Chris Davidson. And of course if I can help you or your team with time management issues just call or mail me.

And look for an alert next week telling you about the launch of my new service!

Kyle was discussing the merits and demerits of task switching. And as someone who considers herself an adapt multitasker I listened intently. In summary, Kyle protects his team from interruptions and distractions by being the guy to field requests and queries that come to his department. This way his IT team can stay focused on their projects. At the same time, they keep a scratch pad to note down ideas and interests. Then as time becomes available, they can contribute and take on fresh work that interests them.

We agreed that in cases such as a production line, tasks can be tedious and repetitive. In these situations task switching can have real benefit. Who wants to be less than effective due to boredom?

I have applied Kyle's methodology to writing my latest book and I must say it is proving very productive. 'Confidence - The Key to Your Happiness', goes to the editor on April 6th as a result! Are you effective or time wasting? Do you find yourself switching and skipping?

When I asked this question on Twitter, Ali Turnbull had this to say:
 
Say you have three people who all need one day’s work from you this week. You could say 'I will do:

Tom’s project on Monday;
Dick’s on Tuesday;
Harry’s on Wednesday.'

Sod’s law is that Harry will ring on Monday for a progress report, or that you will find a glitch in his project that you can’t ask him about till Wednesday. You will have a smoother week if you rotate the projects.

1. Divide Monday morning into three.
2. Allocate a slot to each project.
3. Start each project, making a note of the questions you think you may need to raise with each client/colleague.  There’s sure to be some talking point.

On Monday afternoon, e-mail or phone your client with your questions. They will all be impressed that you have made a start! You may also find out who is chafing at the bit and who is a bit more laid back about their deadline.
At the end of Monday write down targets and time slots for Tuesday.
Continue on Tuesday and Wednesday rotating the three projects so that you finish sizeable chunks of each every time, but don’t get bored.

If you are easily distracted, you could use Interruptron as recommended by Chris Davidson. And of course if I can help you or your team with time management issues just call or mail me.

And look for an alert next week telling you about the launch of my new service!

Alert - Dates for UK Readers                       Time to read: 225 words

Are you in North-West England? If so read on, there are four special events worthy of your time and attention in the coming weeks:

1. YBC Launch of Your Business Club in Wilmslow - 23rd February

The new location for established networking group is The Boddington & Dragon,
Tuesday 23rd February 12 - 2pm
Cost: £12 for online bookings or £15 on the door (prices inc VAT.)
The first speaker at the new venue is yours truly and my talk title is "81%"so do come along and join us.

2. PSA (The Professional Speakers Association) North-West - 2nd March

PSA North West is at a new location for this meeting and with lower fees.
Queens Hotel, Chester on Tuesday 2nd March 7 - 9.30pm.
Lots more information including the agenda here.
Mail me if you wish me to reserve your place/s.

3. IWD - International Womens' Day Manchester at The Monastery Gorton - 8th March

Read more here and then you'll definitely want to book your place. It going to be an amazing event.
Tickets are just £47.00 or £42.00 if you come as a group of six. (Prices ex-VAT.)
Mail me if you wish me to book you on my table.

4. PECHA KUCHA Manchester is back! - 15th March

The Contact Theatre, Oxford Road, Manchester M15 6JA
Networking session from 6pm, PK show starts 7pm
Cost: £8 (£15 for 2)
Read more here.
See you there?

The next issue of Talk Confidence International is due out next week and the topic - task switching...

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It's my birthday month. Our family has the tradition of giving little gifts on special days - like Pooh ... or was it Alice... we call them unbirthday gifts. And my gift to you today is a free download. The idea was created by an email from a relative stranger, Anna Maria. She sent me a kind endorsement of my interview with Chris Davidson. It has prompted me to make the interview the topic of this month's newsletter.

"Please accept my most sincere congratulations for your great audio message, on your website.... weird feeling, but I felt attracted by your infectious smile and the happiness radiating from your solar face. I had to grab the courage to ask you directly who you were, when we were queuing up for a coffee...you allowed me to make my own mini journey of discovering a great voice and an amazing personality... Thanks again for your wonderful message and inspiring life story... ” - Anna Maria (read her full email here).

Join me on Monday 8th March for International Women's Day at Gorton Monastery. This will be a fantastic day. So if you are in the area, why not read my news pages for more information or mail me for booking details now. International Women’s Day was first celebrated 99 years ago on 19 March 1911. Since then it has gone from strength to strength with events being held to mark the day all over the world. IWD is a not-for-profit event and so it is truly an occasion not to be missed!

There is also a forum link to Laura Trevett's video. She is a candidate for UKYP - United Kingdom Youth Parliament. Laura is one of my younger clients and her confident presentation shows youth at its best. Why do you think people value public speaking skills? Perhaps it is because people who are articulate and communicate well, earn 81% more than the rest? Now doesn't that statistic make you sit up and take note!

During my recent trip to Australia I met many strangers and I welcome them to Talk Confidence International, yet again my mother's words ring true, "A stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet..."

Wherever in the world you are, have a fabulous friendly February! And of course if I can help you or your organisation in any way, just ask.

Download your gift - And a Very Happy Unbirthday to You!

So here I am basking in Queensland's summer sunshine -  and I meet up with Beata Francis - a friend from last year's business trip. After dinner, she kindly offers to lend me some holiday reading. And the first item off her bookshelf - Tuesdays with Morrie - the very one I recommend in my team development programme in UK. I don’t suppose it should surprise me really, as Beata and I have a lot in common. However, I do know I find it very reassuring that on the both sides of the world the power of stories and the written word consolidates both business and personal relationships. (You’ll find Tuesdays in my Amazon Affiliate Shop).

When you share the experience of reading a good book you learn can so much. In my opinion, it is as effective as telling your personal stories. You can derive teachings from a book in more circuitous and indirect routes. When book characters talk about experiences, the pressure is off. There is no element of preaching or coercion. You feel that you are being presented a life experience, with the opportunity to explore how it may affect you emotionally and spirituality; and it encourages you to consider your own thoughts and motives, drivers and values.

The power of 'team reading' is the power of a shared experience. When you read a book (or watch a movie, take a trip or play sport for that matter) and you know that colleagues have shared it too, you are even more involved in that experience. In the case of books, your heart races during the intense parts, you like or dislike certain characters, you are emotionally and cognitively involved with the protagonist of every story and plot that unfolds. Such is the power of narrative. It doesn’t matter whether or not the characters are real, you respond to them as if you know them personally. This is what makes a shared reading experience so wonderful….and so powerful; and that is why I suggest that organisations 'team read'. I know of a number of head teachers and principals who give 'Tuesdays' as a gift to all new members of staff. What book would you like all of your team to read? And why that one?

Do share what you are reading at the moment. Do comment on The Confidence Blog.  Not a blogger? Just mail me and I will add it for you. (On The Confidence Forum there are 'reading' posts, which have had 481 page views already). As I have said before, readers are leaders! And if you would like input on your team development, DO get in touch.

Finally and for fun you might like to read Belly Dancing for Beginners - Holiday reading with a difference - author Liz Byrski. My thanks to Beata's friend Tania for lending me her copy.

Enjoy!

"Know exactly what you want .... as sometimes you have to settle for what you can get." An Eilidh-ism        Time to read:  602 words

'Your flight has been cancelled.' After a two hour delay this is not what you want to hear. You run the gamut of emotions from total disbelief to anger and extreme distress.

In the case of flight B198, the airline felt that by offering the option of a full refund, hotel accommodation yet no guarantee of new flight; or the choice to identify an alternative carrier, they had met their obligations. The passengers disagreed. They had but one objective in mind, that all important flight, which in most cases involved visiting distant loved ones for Christmas.

We were second in the business class queue, processed pretty smartly and so had the opportunity to find an alternative flight. We negotiated first class seats to Brisbane. And despite an additional ten hour wait, it was a marvellous compensation for a year that for us had had many 'life challenges.' Others were not confident negotiators or early birds like us. In many cases, as first time travellers they did not know what to do or where to go.  So once we had secured our flights, we headed back to the queues to assist them after all we had plenty of time to spare. And it clear to us that we could help other people get what they wanted - even if they did not know what that was themselves. With our assistance, many more passengers were booked on to flights. They were grateful. We felt like Santa's helpers.

What does my story illustrate? Well when you know exactly what you want you are much more likely to get it. Do you know what you want to achieve in 2010? Have you got it written down, dated and signed off? Who can help you get what you want? And conversely, who can you assist? (Browse previous newsletters stored on the Confidence Blog for tips and strategies on goal setting). The is also a whole chapter on goal setting in my book, "Love your life...".

It proved to be a trip of extremes. There were happy people who were upgraded and others, who faced uncertainty with delays of up to four days. There was chaos in the departure hall and quiet calm in the Emirates lounge. As we took off, snow now was falling in London. We landed in clear blue skies and 30 degrees.

Putting the delays and frustrations to one side - travelling first class is fab-u-lous.  From the welcome glass of Moet and canapes to the outstanding facilities; it is truly fantastic. The Emirates cabin crew are superb, the a la carte menu is delicious, prepared to order, delivered on silver trays, served on linen cloths, with polished cutlery on fine bone china. The sleeping arrangements are five star quality right down to the massage option in the seat, which reclines into a flat bed with privacy screens. You are supplied your own toiletries and towels, slippers and pyjamas as you settle down for a peaceful sleep. In the transit lounge in Dubai you can experience free therapies and beauty treatments, as well as hospitality and surroundings that have to be experienced to be believed. Read how our daughter was also upgraded to first class with Quantas two years ago. It is a very different story (scroll down the IMU Blog to Friday 7th September, 2007).

There is a theme emerging here. Some may say we are lucky, especially when you think of the cancellations and delays experienced by travellers in UK prior to the holiday season this year. I think a lot has to do with knowing what you want and then going relentlessly towards it, whilst accepting that sometimes you may just have to settle for what you can get.

It is time to plan your goals for the year ahead. I know what I want in 2010. What about you? Do you seek clarity and confidence? Do you need a helping hand or a cheer leader? If so, then just send me a mail.

If you think I can help you, your colleagues or friends then do get in touch. Thank you.

Happy New Year and here's to 2010 being one to remember for setting and achieving your goals and dreams...

I was really looking forward to speaking at the Salford Recognition Event on Tuesday 8th December at Swinton Park Golf Club... and I was not disappointed! What a lovely group of people they turned out to be. What fun! They made me so welcome.

We celebrated the value that care workers bring to the local community and acknowledged the part that they play in delivering essential services in the City of Salford. Some of the services providers may have felt up to this point, that their work had been over looked or gone unrecognised, but not now.

It was super to hear the Mayor of Salford, Cllr Roger Lightup express his gratitude for all the work the carers do. He acknowledged their loyalty and commitment, as did the MC for the event, Brian Wroe.

“Success is built on your daily routines...” is expanded on a Cool Beans audio interview here.

Several of the audience asked about my jazzy jewellery. It is very affordable recycled plastic actually and available from designer Elizabeth Hinton.

Look out for the 2009 final edition of ‘Talk Confidence’ due out next week.

PechaKucha (PK) Nights were started in 2003 in Tokyo. And the first event in Manchester launched PK in the Contact Theatre last night.
PK has turned into a massive celebration, with events happening in hundreds of cities all around the globe, inspiring creative people worldwide. "Drawing its name from the Japanese term for the sound of "chit chat", it rests on a presentation format that is based on a simple idea: 20 images x 20 seconds. It's a format that makes presentations concise, and keeps things moving at a rapid pace." according to the PK website.
This Manchester launch event was an instant hit with an attendance in the hundreds. The organisers Andrew and Phil were justly rewarded for their efforts by the delighted response of the audience.
I had the pleasure for opening the event as anchor girl with a talk entitled: ”Success is built on your daily routines” followed my fellow PK presenters:

• Karl Southern (”Tale of the 5 monkeys”)
• David Taylor (”My favourite authors “)
• Sarah Harkness (”A day in the life”)
• Ivor Tymchak (”SatNav for the soul”)
• Bob Moss (”You have got to hand it to them”)
• Nikolay Piryankov (”Marketing on a shoestring”)
• Andy Clark (”My mo”)
• David Slack (”24:7 - Theatre heaven”)
• Rebecca Garland (Manchester based artist)
• Celebration (”Vocal chords”) and see also this link

As soon as video footage is available we will post it in on the site ...