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Pecha Kucha - Japanese chit chat

Eilidh Milnes - Wednesday, December 02, 2009
PechaKucha (PK) Nights were started in 2003 in Tokyo. And the first event in Manchester launched PK in the Contact Theatre last night.
PK has turned into a massive celebration, with events happening in hundreds of cities all around the globe, inspiring creative people worldwide. "Drawing its name from the Japanese term for the sound of "chit chat", it rests on a presentation format that is based on a simple idea: 20 images x 20 seconds. It's a format that makes presentations concise, and keeps things moving at a rapid pace." according to the PK website.
This Manchester launch event was an instant hit with an attendance in the hundreds. The organisers Andrew and Phil were justly rewarded for their efforts by the delighted response of the audience.
I had the pleasure for opening the event as anchor girl with a talk entitled: ”Success is built on your daily routines” followed my fellow PK presenters:
As soon as video footage is available we will post it in on the site ...

Talk Confidence International - An Odd-meter

Eilidh Milnes - Saturday, November 21, 2009

Talk Confidence: An Odd-meter      Time to read: 497 words    

Eilidh-ism "Your success is built on your daily routines..."  

Congratulations to the organisers and supporters of HSBC's 'Rat Pack Ball' at Chester Racecourse, earlier this month. £42K was raised for Claire House. What a fantastic fund-raising event it proved to be! Despite the economic climate, the bank team was determined to raise a substantial figure and they achieved their goal.

Now talking of goals, shortly after we bought our bikes in January, I decided on a simple goal - to cycle 1000 miles in 10 months. To achieve this objective, we needed to be able to measure and monitor mileage. Jay fitted an odometer and day by day, week on week we tracked our journeys; simply put is was 100 miles per month. By the end of November, we will have cycled the targeted 1000 miles; not by riding from Land's End to John O'Groats (a distance of approximately 603 miles by the way) but by short journeys of 3 to 5 miles each day. In the words of Bill Hogan's book, "How do you eat an elephant? .... One bite at a time!" (You'll find this and other recommended reading on P7 of my affiliate shop) I'm sure you know SMART goal mnemonic = specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-lined = and these steps =  success.

For many people the trouble with goals is threefold.  They give up through lack of:
  1. Commitment
  2. Confidence
  3. Clarity
Well be different. Be odd!  Think 'odd'! Find your own 'odd-meter'! Track your success.  Dare to set a goal that excites; maybe cycling 1000 miles does nothing for you, so find what does. Feel the sense of achievement when you arrive at your goal destination. Imagine how pleased HSBC felt when they handed over the £42K cheque to the charity!

Each time I cycle I achieve improved fitness, fuel savings,  a reduced carbon footprint and have time to talk to myself - strategic planning. The more reasons you can associate with your goal, the more likely you are to win... my goal is also fun, it gives me quality time with Jay and we keep exploring.  But beware, once you have achieved your goal it may become addictive. You could become a goal getter and setter again... and again.  Of course building on your success, you can go on to challenge yourself to more demanding things. The secret is getting started, doing a little each day and having a support team or partner to encourage you along the way.

My next book "Confidence the Key to Your Happiness" publishes in mid-February 2010. It is full of stories and strategies to help ride the roller-coaster of life. And I'm looking for original stories. Do you have a story, an experience or point of view that you would like to share? If so, please mail me. (Contributions will need approval from the editor and be no more than 500 words) Deadline: 31/12/2009

I'll be presenting at the first Pecha Kucha Event in Manchester on Tuesday 1st December at 7pm. Why not join us? Cost is just £5.00 as PK (Pecha Kucha) events are non-profit making. 160 tickets have already been reserved.

And do get in touch if you think I can help you, your colleagues or friends in any way; suggest they sign up for Talk Confidence?

Why not let me help you to have an "Odd" month or a really "Odd" 2010?
Remember that Eilidh-ism,  "Your success will be built on your daily routines..."

Triple 'C' Confidence, Consistency, Commitment

Eilidh Milnes - Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Talk Confidence: Triple C! Time to read: 491 words

You cannot have missed the headline news that Jenson Button has won the World Championship. And even if you are not an F1 fan you cannot deny that Button's win is a fantastic result! As many of you know, I enjoy Formula 1 Racing. I watched the interviews straight after the race and Eddie Jordan made this statement, "It's down to confidence and consistency..." Do you agree with Jordan's statement? As The Confidence Coach, you would expect me to agree now wouldn't you? And I would imagine that Jenson's qualities are relevant to you and your everyday life challenges.

Coincidentally, my mentor Mark Greenhalgh, Sales & Marketing Director for Intercare was talking about consistency only last week. Mark reminded me the that people need to engage with you 6-8 times. Only at this point, does your message (via call, email, letter) become the their message. Mark has a great way of getting his message across.... yip he just consistently covers the same ground. He is confident that if he keeps telling me, one day I'll get the message. Thank YOU, Mark! The same rule applies to getting ideas across in classrooms and in boardrooms. You need to reinforce a concept 6-8 times before it is embedded in their thought processes. Only then will your client, student, colleague embrace your message as his or her own. 

Last week I met with a dedicated and inspirational head teacher, Nigel Phillips. I helped him to access DDP funding. As I left his school he said, "Thank you for being persistent, Eilidh!" Consistent and persistent - Eureka!

Client Debbie Catt, employs confidence and consistency in her business. The University of Nicosia has asked her to deliver two lectures when she is in Cyprus next month - another great a result! Robert Craven would approve or Debbie's active approach to her marketing. You can read more about my experience earlier this month at his superb Barclays seminar.  And if you have the opportunity to attend one of Barclays "Let's Talk Profit!" I recommend you accept.

As a coach, I believe that confidence is vital. In fact, I have almost finished writing my next book entitled, 'Confidence - The Key to Your Happiness...." more about the book publication next month.

If you add commitment to the winning qualities of confidence and consistency, you have a true success formula. Cheshire gymnast, Beth Tweddle's commitment to achieve her Olympic Goal is exemplary; when interviewed this week she said that for her 90-second floor routine she had practiced for 12 months! An entire year to perfect her work; what an inspiration and shining example of commitment!

The Triple Cs - Confidence + Consistency + Commitment = Happiness.... And the greatest of these is Confidence...

Open Events - Free to attend

Many of my speaking engagements are client specific and not open to the public. However I do have two 'open' gigs in Cheshire, UK in November. I would like to invite you to attend if you are in the area:

I'll be speaking about the power of Triple Cs at The Big Kiss Event! 

KISS = knowledge, information, sharing, support.      Download KISS flyer

Date: Thursday, 5th November 12.00 to 18.00 Location: Congleton Town Hall

Waterstone's Macclesfield Tuesday 10th November at 6.30 pm

Attendance is free but places are limited so please book early to avoid disappointment on 01625 424212 or email me.

I'll be signing books and giving a motivational talk.

Please tell your friends and colleagues....

Thank you!

And wherever in the world you are reading this, have a happy Triple 'C' month and if I can help you in any way, just ask.

Let's Talk - Robert Craven

Eilidh Milnes - Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Today, thanks to Barclays Bank, I had the pleasure of attending a Let’s Talk More Profit Seminar at Crewe Hall.  It was delivered by Robert Craven of The Directors’ Centre

Time flew.  The busy morning was packed full of tips and strategies to make businesses more profitable. Robert is an upbeat, inspirational and lively presenter. He captured the audience from the very start. He facilitated with clear direction and kept the momentum at a high level so that all the delegates remained engaged throughout. Robert knows his subject and eagerly shares his expertise. He does all he can to ensure the attendees leave with SMART actions plans as well as creating the opportunity for quality focused networking.

Here's a selection of notes I jotted down in his comprehensive course brochure:

  1. Hope is not an option (when linked to future profits)
  2. Many businesses neglect marketing
  3. Practical common sense profitability tactics
  4. The Law of the vital few
  5. The Law of the trivial many
  6. Win the battle of the mind of the customer
  7. 78% of people trust recommendations

If you get the opportunity to attend one of Robert’s events grasp the chance, as it will be worth every single minute of your time.

You may be interested in reading a book that Robert Craven co-authored with Sir Richard Branson - Kick Start Your Business. 100 Days to a Leaner Fitter Organisation

Remember, leaders and readers!

Read more on Bright Marketing - Robert's Blog.

Saying No!

Eilidh Milnes - Friday, October 09, 2009

Teachers are good people, who like many find it hard to say,"No!"


When I was doing research for my book, "Love your Life... Survive the System, " I interviewed an experienced teacher, Shirley Davies. She shared this tip with me and I found myself implementing it this week.


Shirley always carries her "To Do" list.

If approached by a colleague to do yet another job that is going to challenge either her time or her work/life balance, she says "Yes, I'd like to help" ... with a smile...

She then slowly takes her list out of her pocket and asks 'So to do your job, I am going to have to take one of these tasks off my to do list.... which one do you want me to delete?"


Continuing to smile she patiently and waits for a response....

It works a treat... let me know if it works for you too.

You can read more tips for overcoming work challenges here plus learn more about the heading higher competition:

http://www.coaching4teachers.com




World Smile Day ... And The Big Kiss!

Eilidh Milnes - Friday, October 02, 2009

Today is World Smile Day!

Reading time: 177 words


World Smile Day® 2009 

Today, October 2, 2009 we celebrate the eleventh World Smile Day ®.  As ever, the theme for today is "Do an act of kindness.  Help one person smile."  

And as ever, the image that leads the way on this day is the smiley face 

So here I am sending you a virtual smile and thanking you my friends, clients and colleagues for your support in the past 12 months. 

Why not recognise people today for their acts of good will and kindness. Spread the word.  If each of us becomes a World Smile Day® Ambassador and help just one person smile today - the world will be a better place.  

Harvey Ball believed that each of us, as individuals, can make a difference in this world.  World Smile Day® is the day when all our individual acts can make the world a better place.

Smiles go with big hugs and kisses don't they? Take a look at this Big Kiss event that I am delighted to be involved in. If you are in this region of the world on Thu 5th November, do join us!

Now best get this newsletter sent before international time zones change the date!

Fab Fridays all! 

Spread the word! 


Talk Confidence - One Degree More... 86,400 seconds

Eilidh Milnes - Thursday, September 24, 2009
 

Reading time:  595 words
Confidence Club: 7597 forum page views since June

 

The difference between hot water and boiling water is just one degree of heat. And whilst that may not seem a lot, it is the difference between a relaxing cup of tea and having the oomph to power up a steam train! Just one extra degree of heat - that's all. That one degree extra effort, can make all the difference not only for locomotives but in powering forward with your personal and professional life. 

 

The Law of Magnetism is powerful too; so great in fact that whatever character you possess you are likely to find in the people who are attracted to you. Leaders attract people whose values are similar to their own. Think of the people who were attracted to John F. Kennedy in the early 1960s. He was a young idealist who wanted to change the world and he attracted people with a similar profile. When he formed the Peace Corps and extolled people with, "Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country," thousands of young idealistic  people stepped forward to answer the challenge. JFK exuded a magical magnetism; as does Obama. Unfortunately, it doesn't matter whether the shared values are positive or negative, the result is the same. (Hitler being an obvious example of the latter).

 

As you know, people work better when they feel valued. Everyone needs to feel important and respected. In the book Leadership and Self-deception it is put this way; whatever is is that you do, you see others either as people or as objects. When you see people as people you are thinking out of the box and when you are in the box when you see them in a distorted way i.e. as objects. 

 

One thing you could do to increase your magnetism quotient is use kind words of encouragement; and to do so publicly and with gusto. Praise your employees with enthusiasm especially in the current climate.  As Gerry Westwood explains in his newsletter this month, enthusiasm rocks! Or as Dale Carnegie said, "Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise... " When you take the time to learn someone's name you see them as a person not an resource. Be genuine! People will spot falsehoods and no-one likes to feel manipulated by a new technique. Be honest! Go out, look for the good in people- just for fun and because you can! Why? You will feel really good about yourself and that it is the one degree more needed to turn you into a people magnet. 

 

You have been blessed with the gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say "thank you?" Why not do so now? And charge forward with a full head of steam and have a great month attracting all sorts of exciting things into your life.

 

Thanks to Khumi Burton, I had the pleasure of meeting Martin Bell this month at a charity luncheon for Combat Stress. He was friendly and charming. Martin made me feel as though he had come to meet and speak to me. My pleasure and 'thank you' is to broadcast his new book. It is out on October 1st and if you live within striking distance of Waterstones Manchester he is signing books at 7pm. See you there?

 

Remember just holler if I can help you or your colleagues in any way and check out the free and fully supported / co-funded coaching and training available to readers in UK.  

Talk Confidence - Are YOU Pointing in the Right Direction?

Eilidh Milnes - Thursday, September 03, 2009

Reading time: 456 words

"Where does persistence end and obsession begin? How high is too high? How big is too big?"  - questions posed by Ricardo Semler in his leadership book 'Maverick'.

We encourage ourselves to do our best and others likewise. However, from time to time we can over-cook aspects of life and work. At such moments, hold the old adage of "moderation in all things" in the forefront of your mind. Persistence is only a virtue when it's pointing in the right direction, is one my sayings and if you are verging on obsessive - STOP! Check your personal compass. Enough is enough! 

Two of my clients, who have shown symptoms of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) are Sylvia, who constantly doubted if she had locked her front door and had to go through a daily rigid routine to get out of her house. And John who was convinced that he was going to lose his job plus the respect of his peers, if he did not work 12-15 hours a day. I extol clients to focus on their goals and be persistent, but in the case of Sylvia and John, the focus was distorted, unhelpful and destructive. This serves as a timely reminder that we probably all need to do some brain-washing on occasions. 

Take heart, balance can be restored by the moderation maxim! Advances in technology have far outstripped advances in mentality. Technology can be transformed overnight; but mental processes can take decades and generations to alter; so allow time for you, your team and family members to adapt. And starting back to work after a holiday is an opportunity to consider change and review your progress.

Persistence does pay off. Take the young band  'The Yeah Yous' currently in the charts with their latest song Getting up with You. It's a great track that I'll be downloading as soon as it releases (in 10 days time) and what makes it even better for me personally, is that Michael, one of the singers is the son of my friend Mr Network -  Will Kintish. It has taken the band 8 years to get in the charts! And now believe it or not, they are on the same playlists as... wait for it... Dame Vera Lynn! Talk about persistence! That amazing lady has it in spades! To be back in the charts at 92 years of age is unbelievable.

Are you persisting with your goals for this year? Are you heading in the right direction? If not, and you need some advice do mail me.

Click this link if you want to read Semler's book or others recommended by Talk Confidence readers. Jackie Cameron for example recommends "The One Thing You Need to Know..." by Marcus Buckingham.


Make New Friends, but Keep the Old

Eilidh Milnes - Thursday, August 27, 2009

Holidays are over but your body is still sleeping too long. Getting to school late the first few weeks of frazzles the best of us. There could be a million reasons a late arrival to school occurs, just make sure it’s not because you weren’t awake in time! Leave enough time to allow for a train, a traffic jam, or cattle crossing. My mother said I should never be late because it implied that I was more important than others. With these words engrained in my mind, I do not do late!

Students, parents and even school staff have tons of great ideas at the beginning of the school year. As educators are giddy with excitement for a new school year and all the possibilities it brings.  Remain realistic. Only promise what you know you are able to deliver. Respond with “I’d like to do…” or “That really interests me…” instead of “I’m definitely going to….” Your students and colleagues will remember and remind you regularly if you break a promise.

New teachers bring new life to school staffs, and that’s never more apparent that at the beginning of the school year. A school staff should not be like a survivor programme.  Act as a part of team instead of a solo teacher. Remember the song: “Make new friends, but keep the old.” Try to make neebies feel welcome. Help show them the ropes. Don’t put anyone’s torch out. Help ignite the flame!

If you’ve got a to-do list a mile long and have no idea how to accomplish most of the items on it you must remember to ask for help and advice. If you’ve questions about the nuts and bolts of how the school runs (ordering supplies, schedules, etc) ask your administrative staff. In my experience, they are some of the nicest and tapped-in people in the building. Don’t wait for answers to questions over email or memos - go face to face so your to-do list is eliminated.

Happy Teacher - Term Start Tips

Eilidh Milnes - Saturday, August 22, 2009

On the Forum there is a topic, "Happy Teachers..." The Confidence Coach Blog seemed a good place to add further ideas for start of term thoughts...

Throughout the first two weeks of school, new students will be added to your class and you’ll have the opportunity to meet new parents. You only get one chance to make a first impression- so make the most of it. If you expect your students to adhere to the dress code, you have to stick to it, too. Looking your professional best will help you feel great and that confidence will trickle over into your teaching.

And as your new students settle in, you may think that getting everyone to share a talent/ability is a good icebreaker for the start of the school year. I do urge you to tread lightly. Talking about a talent is one thing, but putting it on display is quite another. 

My advice: wait until your class has bonded to trying something like this. Once there is trust in place, the atmosphere of sharing a personal talent is safer and will yield better results.



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